Sex is great, right? And the more the better…. That’s the message we get from our culture, but what if it’s not true in your own particular relationship or situation? For Becky it is time to confront this issue head-on in Chapter 27 of her memoir Beyond the Great Abyss.
Sex is one of our most basic, driving instincts, and because of this deep link in our brains, emotional and psychological issues will be reflected here. Sex should be mutually satisfying and enjoyable, a chance for both people to express their love and caring for the other, resulting in greater pleasure and connection for both. If there is a problem with sex in a relationship, or an individual, it is a bright red flag – something is wrong and needs attention. (See Workbook Introduction for how to use this workbook).
Intuition Development Exercise: Do you enjoy sex? Or is it a chore, or downright unpleasant? Have you ever burst into tears afterwards? Sex is such an important part of life and our beings that core feelings about your life will often surface at these times. Write down what sex truly means to you in your life, and what you think sex ought to be – your ideal of what sex should be like. Are your body and soul trying to tell you something? Be as honest as you can, but understand too that an ideal is just that, not something that you should hold over yourself or a partner as an ultimatum or threat.
Let yourself drift into a meditation, asking Spirit to help you know whatever you should know about your sex life. Focus on your breathing or say your mantra word over and over while sitting relaxed but focused. Let your mind go still and quiet to that place where you can hear Spirit’s messages. Perhaps you are already in a wonderful loving relationship where sex is a breathtaking, transcendental expression of that love. You may feel that love now welling up in your meditation. Or you may feel terribly sad and this will be Spirit and your soul telling you that you must make a change. Let your soul and Spirit guide you, listen closely for they are wise.
Homeopathic of the Week: Thuja: Keynote: Sexual guilt
The Mental State: Low self-esteem and feelings of worthlessness. Often for women a history of sexual abuse. Feels unattractive or spends much time perfecting the appearance. Depression. even suicidal. Desperate to “fit-in.” Feels others “wouldn’t like me if they really knew me.” Fixed ideas or delusions: (Something is alive in abdomen. Pregnant. That he/she is fragile or glass and could break). Secretive. When talking the last words of the sentence are mumbled.
Common Physical Signs: Persperation oily and sweet-smelling or offensive. History of repeated smallpox vaccinations. Left frontal or temporal headache. Intolerance to onions or garlic. Herpes. Warts on hands. Bulimia. Sex drive generally high. Sleeps on the left side. Falling dreams. Warts and skin tags and any tumors of the skin.
Natural Health Tip: Whole Body Vibration & Sex
Libido and pleasure typically increase using Whole Body Vibration (WBV). Research has shown increases in the sex and energy hormone testosterone, and in the levels of the neurotransmitter serotonin, which is connected to the ability to experience pleasure.
Kundalini energy (sexual energy), which is centered in the first chakra also increases. Vibration frees blocked energy and increases chi energy in your body every time you use it. This energy flows up through all your chakras starting from the first chakra, the seat of your most basic physical needs including your sexual energy.
My favorite story: I had a middle-aged woman client who came twice a week for three weeks primarily interested in losing weight and increasing bone density. Her husband was regularly critical, voicing his skepticism as, “So, you think you will lose weight and increase bone density just by standing on that machine!”
After three weeks my client said to me, “I think those hormonal effects you were talking about might be kicking in…. Now my husband says ,‘Buy one.’ ”